"Just let it go and move on..."

I have to be honest. I am sick and tired of people telling me to "just move on."

A few months ago a housemate of mine - quite randomly and out of the blue -  said to me that I should just move on, let things go and stop caring what others think. Bearing in mind the fact that this guy didn't - and still does not - know me well, it just seemed a bit strange.

I would love to be able to move on from all the horrible stuff I've been through but that's easier said than done. It doesn't mean that I am not trying, but things are really complex. Also, I don't care what others think. I don't know where he got that assumption from. However, even though I don't care what others think, I still won't tolerate people being nasty and horrible to me. I am a human being with a heart after all.

It's so easy to tell people to "just move on" when you come from a privilege and cushy life. I often find that those who are telling others to "just move on" have had lovely and idyllic lives and seem unable to comprehend the fact that some people have bad lives. I once had a therapist who would tell me to "stop dwelling on things" instead of allowing me to address my issues. That's not the way to deal with my problems.

I've stopped listening to people who think it's so easy to just move on. To be honest, what they are really saying is that I should just get over my issues, which is not a mature way of dealing with things. The same thing applies to those who say "just forgive and forget" as if we all live in a harmonious and utopian world. It's a load of nonsense.

The moment someone tells me to move on, my mind just shuts down and their words go in one ear and out of the other. I'm a realist so I understand that things are not as simple as they seem.

So here's the deal: I will move on when I am ready and able to move on. I will move once I am able to process my issues and emotions because there is a lot of unresolved stuff that I still have to deal with. Recovery is a very long process and it takes time. It is not instant.

I'm working very hard to change my life for the better, and that should be good enough.

That is all.

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