5 Things I Need To Remember in 2017

The last few months of 2016 (from August onwards) were very difficult for me. I felt miserable, I felt trapped, life wasn't going my way and I was constantly being put-down, undermined, disrespected and spoken down to.
I felt so angry about the way I was treated. I was floored. I was extremely angry, bitter, resentful and depressed. I was fed up - enough was enough and I was at the end of my tether.

So I have set out to change my life for the better and for good from 2017 onwards because I am so done and I know I deserve better.

I know that after everything thing I have been through, I have learned a lot about myself. The most important thing I have to remember is that I am a human being - with my own feelings, emotions thoughts, desires, wants and needs - and I deserve to be treated as such.

As I have entered a new year, I have a a few things I need to take into account:

1. I must not compare myself to other people.
Last year I worked in a job where I was constantly being compared to others. It made me feel bad, as though something was wrong with me and as if I was incapable of doing my job (not true, as I know that I am more than capable.) I felt completely undermined and worthless, and I felt as though my confidence in my abilities had been killed off. But in the last couple of months of 2017 I thought, "No! I am good enough and I deserve to be acknowledged and appreciated for that!" Not only that, but in my personal life, I have been spoken down to and treated as though I am incapable of looking after myself and making decisions on my own life, and that's not okay. I am a grow woman with my own mind, I am not a child and I don't need to be patronised by anybody!

The saying "Comparison is the thief of joy" is very true. When you are compared to others, you feel worthless. The thing that has helped me is knowing for a fact that I am good enough, regardless of what anyone says. I don't compare myself to other people and I don't rank myself against others. I am in my own league and I rather succeed in my own right instead of placing myself in the shadows of others.

2. I must be aware of my limitations
I am not superwoman. I am a human being. I can't do everything. I can't be perfect. Just because I am not good at everything (who is?) and just because I make mistakes sometimes doesn't mean that I am a bad person. I have my limitations and I have certain things I am not good at, and that is okay.

3. I mustn't be so hard on myself.
Last year I was so hard on myself because I felt as though I wasn't good enough. In my mind, I wasn't perfect enough, I wasn't on the same level as 'everyone else' and I had not achieved everything I wanted to achieve. But I think that life is a process and I am not perfect. The best is yet to come.

4. It's time to take the plunge.
I've decided that I want to take the chance from this year onwards and start working towards the goals I have always wanted to achieve. It is time for me to start making some major life changes because I am sick and tired of being stuck in a miserable rut.

5. I shouldn't change who I am...
...and I should always remember to embrace myself. I am who I am and I'm not going to allow other people to define me or mould me into something I am not. I have always been the odd one out and I like to step outside the box.

And another thing...
I am a wonderful person and I deserve to be surrounded by wonderful people. Apart from my fantastic friends - you all know who you are :) - I feel as though a lot of people don't care about me or my feelings and a lot of people don't have my best interests at heart. I seem to be attracting and/or unintentionally keeping some toxic people in my life who seem to think it's okay to disrespect me and make false and nasty assumptions about me. Eventually I will have to cut them off and out of my life for good in order to bring peace into my life.

What are your lessons and tips for 2017?


  1. I'm sorry the ending of 2016 was rough for you but glad you've worked out what you need to do to make yourself happy again! Let's hope 2017 is amazing for you; I'm sure it will be! x

    1. Thank you for your comment. :) I hope so too.