Making Mistakes...

Recently I have made some big mistakes.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing and I have learned from those mistakes.

Some people might wonder why I am writing about this. Making a mistake is a pretty normal thing to do, right?

Growing up, I was never allowed to make mistakes. I was always expected to be perfect and never put a foot wrong. Even in some situations I've been in my post-graduate life - i.e. in the workplace - I feel as though I've been pressured to over-perform and over-deliver instead of making mistakes, learning from them and progressing. The problem with the 'don't make mistakes' mentality is that a) striving for perfectionism is damaging and b) if you don't have the chance to make mistakes and learn from them, then you cannot grow, progress, thrive and mature as a human being.

It is natural to make mistakes. We all do - we are all human beings after all - then we learn from them and move on. However, people who harbour the 'don't make mistakes' mentality don't understand and/or acknowledge that. I find that people like that tend to judge you on the mistakes you've made and they use those mistakes to define you and call you a failure, which is wrong.

It's taken up until recently for me to realise and accept that making mistakes is not a bad thing at all. I've stopped letting my mistakes and so-called failures define who I am as a person and I've started learning from my mistakes, giving myself the space to grow and become a better person. I don't dwell on them like I used to and I move on from bad situations instead. I used to hate myself for not being perfect enough, but now I embrace my sense of humanity.

My mistake don't define me, and they don't make me a bad person. I define who I am and I know exactly what I'm all about.

Everyone makes mistakes. Deal with it.