I Don't Care!

Tuesday, November 08, 2016

Right now, I'm at the stage of my life where I am past the point of caring.

All my life I have tried so hard - too hard. I've tried too hard to be the people-pleaser. I've tried too hard to conform to something I'm not. I've tried too hard to be the "good little girl." I have allowed myself to be treated like a doormat for far too long. I have put other people's feelings first at the expense of my own. I have allowed others to railroad me when I should have spoken out and stood up for myself. I have allowed other people's cruel judgements, snide remarks and false assumptions to define me when I shouldn't have done that at all.

Well, not any more.

I'm so done.

Enough is enough.

A long time ago I decided to make that change, and I am making that change now, because I know myself and I know who I am - I am a human being and I know what I deserve.

I don't care.

Seriously, I just don't care anymore. I can't even be bothered to care.

At the end of the day, I am not responsible for what others think and feel about me, and I could not care less. I can only be responsible for my own thoughts and feelings.

If people want to judge me and make assumptions about me, then that's not me problem. The ones I truly care about are the ones who know me best and see the good in me. I surround myself with people who bring out the best in me and they are the only ones who matter to me.

Most importantly, if I assert myself and somebody (whoever it may be) takes it in a bad way, or as a personal attack, or they hate me because of it, then I really don't give a flying fig what or what they think or feel. I am not a meek little mouse - I am a strong-minded human being and I have every right to be assertive. I refuse to take crap from anyone anymore.

Maybe I've become slightly hardened - after all, I have lost a little bit of faith in humanity. Maybe I'm just simply fed up of being talked badly about, and I'm sick and tired of being judged for my life choices and my personality. However, there's not much I can do - life is full of ups and downs, sometimes bad things happen in the world and people will always judge you no matter how good you are - so I guess my only choice is to stop caring about what others think and feel about me. You can't please all of the people all of the time anyway, and there is not point trying to change other people's opinions of you. Just be yourself and everything else will fall into place eventually.

Over time, I've noticed that the less I care, the better I feel. I don't feel a massive sense of anxiety anymore, I don't overthink things as much as I used to and I feel as though a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders because other people's (negative) opinions can be so draining and they would easily bring me down.

The best thing about not caring is the fact that I am now much more able to feel as though I can truly be myself without feeling guilty and ashamed. By not caring, I feel a slight sense of freedom. I feel as though I can do more with my life because I don't let other people's thoughts and feelings hold me back.

I feel so happy I can go about my life without worrying so much like I used to, and that is the best feeling in the world, and I feel so secure. Once you feel secure within yourself, then you need not care at all.

 I have much more compassion and love for myself, because once you stop caring about what others you can use that level of care and focus on yourself, and that is vital for well-being.

I wrote a similar post for Love From Magazine, which you can read here.


When did you stop caring about what others thought and felt about you?

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  1. I love this post! Intoo have recently adopted this mentality in that other people can think what they want and that's on them! I know who I am as an individual and strive to be a better me along the way this you can't take on everyone's opinions so do you boo! x

    Shannon // shannonkara.com

    1. It's a great way to think! It's so liberating. As long as you are secure within yourself, nothing anyone else says matters.



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