15 Things My Issues At University Taught Me

Friday, June 17, 2016

I've just finished university and while I have enjoyed my time here, I've had a lot of issues with the majority of people I met, lived with or became friends with (or well acquainted with) along the way.  I had high expectations of meeting lovely new people, but I was let down so badly because many people I met treated me badly.

I have a lot of regrets, and there are a lot of things I would have done different.  There are a lot of things I would change about my university experience, but I've learned a lot of things the hard way...

1. You will not get on with everyone you meet.  You won't click with everyone, but that doesn't matter.  University is not a popularity contest, and you are not there to be liked.

2. Not everyone is your friend, even if they act like they are.

3. Toxic people aren't worth the time, effort or energy.  Sometimes it's better to keep your distance, because these people don't have your best interests at heart.  Chances are, they don't care for you, they don't have respect for you and they want to tear you down at every give opportunity.

4. It's better to be myself, and it's better to be hated for who I am than to be loved for something I'm not.

5. I'm an introvert, and there's nothing wrong with that.

6. It is very important to be assertive.  Being passive, aggressive or passive-aggressive gets you nowhere.  I've always struggled with being assertive, but I'd rather be assertive because being passive means that people are more likely to walk all over you, treat you like dirt and disrespect you, and that leads to bitterness, hurt and resentment.  Looking back, I wish I stood up for myself a lot more, but to compensate I've grown in confidence, learned lessons from my experiences (the hard way) and I've cut people off (or kept my distance.)

7. It's not my job to educate stupid and ignorant people.

8. I don't need to justify or explain myself to anyone, especially to those who should understand me.  I don't owe anyone an explanation for how I choose to live my life.

9. Clubbing is not all it's cracked up to be, and choosing not to get involved with the clubbing/party lifestyle does not make a person socially awkward, strange, snobby or weird.  There are many (better) ways to socialise.

10. Some people never ever grow out of the silly high school/mean girl/catty/bitchy/fake/attention-seeking/two-faced/entitled/superiority complex/bullying phase, even when they're at university.  I've met so many mean-spirited and malicious people who act like they have a chip on their shoulders.

11. University should be a place where you meet people like yourself and form friendships.  For some people that happens.  For others, it doesn't work out.  Either way, it's okay.

12. If you can live on your own while away at university, then do it!

13. Your time at university is what you make of it, so make the most of it.  I'm so glad I joined societies, took up hobbies and worked, and I did these activities alongside my studies so my time at university is been valuable.

14. Strength, tenacity, conscientiousness and resilience are important characteristics to possess.

15.  Your years at university are valuable, so make the most of them and don't let anything (or anyone) ruin your experience.

Read my other university posts here.

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